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BETSEY is Elizabeth Cody Newenhuyse, Editorial Director at Moody Publishers. JANE is Jane Johnson Struck, former Editor of Today's Christian Woman magazine. We're friends and neighbors who love getting together to ponder relevant matters of the heart, the home, and our world at large. Each Wednesday we tackle a new topic. Join our conversation!

Wednesday, January 12

The King's Speech

jane: I've been thinking about the movie Rich and I viewed two weeks ago, The King's Speech, starring Colin Firth (oh, Mr. Darcy!). First of all, we both loved the flick – and for Rich to love a movie (and even recommend it to others), that says a lot. I think the film merits its Oscar buzz; Colin Firth as England's Prince Albert-turned-King George VI is outstanding. And I loved Helena Bonham Carter's turn as Elizabeth, the Queen Mother, mother of Queen Elizabeth II. I'll be interested to see how well it does during Sunday's Golden Globes award ceremony.

The movie revolves around Prince Albert, son of ailing King George V. Albert, known by intimates as "Bertie," suffered from a stutter that rendered him incapable of utilizing the power of radio broadcasts (“the wireless”) to communicate with his subjects. Then his father dies and his brother, King Edward VIII, abdicates to marry American divorcee Wallis Simpson, and the stutterer is thrust onto the throne of a nation poised for war against Hitler.

As we discussed the film, Rich observed that anyone who's struggled with any type of physical or emotional impediment, no matter how slight, could relate to Prince Albert's fear and frustration when having to "step up." I remembered how as a child I was very self-conscious about being pigeon-toed. Not to mention terribly shy. Even today, at the thought of public speaking, I tremble. How about you, Betsey?

betsey: Well, first, I really want to see the film. I remember Colin Firth in Bridget Jones’s Diary, where he played the quiet-but-decent guy, as opposed to charming cad Hugh Grant (of course). He’s supposed to be amazing in this. And for me, I love public speaking – BUT I do struggle with introversion. Not that that’s a handicap, exactly, but in some settings it is. I used to be pretty socially awkward. I’m not anymore, but every now and then I can still feel like that person standing behind the potted palm.


jane: One of this movie's most inspiring aspects is the unconventional relationship betweeen a king and a commoner. That led to King George's ability finally to control his stammer. It was washed-up Australian actor Lionel Logue, portrayed by Geoffrey Rush, who helped Albert regain both his voice and his confidence. How powerfully this demonstrates the way friendship can help us overcome challenges or fears.


betsey: Absolutely. Everything from walking with someone through an addiction struggle to a simple “you’re really good at . . .” But it’s an art, to affirm while at the same time encouraging someone to overcome something.

jane: Lionel Logue had no credentials; his “speech therapy” techniques were birthed from aiding impaired, shell-shocked soldiers who couldn't talk about what they'd seen in war. What Lionel provided, in many ways, was that all-important open heart and listening ear.

betsey: From what I know of the story, one of the most remarkable elements of their friendship was that Logue dared to befriend the prince – to cross a forbidden line. I think there’s a lesson right there. It’s easy for me to go the extra mile for someone like, well, you – but how often do I befriend, let alone truly invest in, someone outside my comfortable circles?

jane: That deserves some serious thought. Plus, the king had to forsake his trappings of royalty and formality (defense mechanisms) to overcome stuttering, while Lionel had to remain doggedly determined, steadfast in the face of regal resistance. There's a lesson there, too, about
comfort zones and persistence and being present, even when it isn't easy.
Most people's problems aren't as obvious as Bertie's awkward stammer. But they're still there, some impediment of pain or hurt or fear waiting for a Lionel Logue to invest the time and attention needed for healing. So when I take the time to listen and then speak from a caring heart guided by God's truth and wisdom, I'm using The King's Speech, too!

4 comments:

Kate Bryant said...

OK...now I want to see the movie!

Karen said...

Thank you, ladies! This post challenges me to go that extra mile.

Sometime in the past year or so, I reconnected with a childhood friend through Facebook. We've talked regularly by email - answering unanswered questions dating back to the 60s! It's been great!

Along the way, she confirmed something I'd wondered about: She is an alcoholic, although in recovery at the time we reconnected.

It didn't take long to realize she had spent her life desperately searching for love. In the process, her journey is littered wtih broken relationships. I suggested, and for a time, we shared an online study on the subject of Jesus as the One to fill all our needs. At the time, she was in a new relationship.

Several months ago, her father died, and the man in her life walked. Suddenly, all communication dropped. Yes, I found out she turned back to numbing her pain.

Through her daughter, I was finally able to reestablish communication, but it's been spotty at best.

This blog leaves me challenged about how I can step up my long-distance support, challenged about how easy it would be to "let it go," rather than invest myself in another.

Perhaps it's time to stop putting off that phone call.

Maggie said...

Great post and I agree with your assessment of the film - very worthwhile to see. I wish it wasn't rated R as this would be encouraging for children to see were it not for the one scene with the expletives used as therapy.

I also can identify. I had hysterical paralysis in my first speech course in college; my hands froze and I could not even open my fingers. It took a compassionate prof to help me overcome my fears, and now I speak for a living and love it. God helps his people overcome.

Maggie

likes334 said...

I agree that The King's Speech is a wonderful movie--even the title is brilliant! Colin Firth pulled off portraying a man with a speech impediment without caricature or over-emoting. And the movie touched on that whole royal/commoner unconventional life theme as well as the duty/desire for personal happiness in a subdued manner. When the movie was over, I had that satisfactory feeling of having spent time in a worthwhile way with a quality piece of work.

I know the times I've invested in someone unlike myself have made me richer, but it's still hard. It's not only the time involved, but the sometimes sameness of a person's situation that can make you wonder if anything's happening. And it's not always wise or necessary to go into a new relationship as a fixer or even a helper--be able to receive from someone else also.